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Splashing the Potty: Splashguard Skirmishes!

Oh the splashguard... such a controversial little piece of plastic! On one hand it can be so useful in helping little boys avoid spraying pee everywhere when they're learning to go on the potty. What parent wouldn't want to minimize the mess? On the other hand, one "mis-sit" near a splashguard can lead to a painful (or at the very least uncomfortable) outcome. Not only do we want to prevent our children from getting hurt, we also want them to have a pleasant and positive experience on the potty in order to keep them coming back!

So what's the potty with the best splashguard? That's what Just for Parents is here for, right...? I wish we had an easy answer, but unfortunately the reality is that no single splashguard (or potty) is going to satisfy everyone. However, we can help you sort out the issue so you are able to make an informed choice about what might be right for your family!

The two main issues are 1.) size and shape of the splashguard and 2.) whether it is removable or not. The perfect splashguard walks a fine line between big enough to prevent stray spray from getting everywhere and small enough to allow for safe and comfortable seating. While a 12" splashguard would certainly be an effective blocker, it wouldn't matter because no child could negotiate such a huge hunk of plastic! Because there doesn't seem to be a universally perfect size, the shape of the splashguard and the seat picks up where size leaves off, creating just the right circumstances to optimize peeing IN the potty. Many of the most popular potty seats have a nice contoured seat that fits little bottoms and angles everything the right way to enhance a smaller sized splashguard!

The other issue, removability of the splashguard, is fraught with more dilemnas. Non-removable splashguards tend to be smaller and therefore potentially less effective, but also less of a hazard. They are typically just a smooth molded bump that is built into the potty. The key to using them successfully is to supervise your little boy and teach him to tuck his privates down. A taller splashguard that provides more splash protection is potentially more hazardous, but often removable. If you're just going to take it off, why bother having the extra splash protection? Because you can start with it on in the beginning when you are always right there to position your child, and then when it is no longer needed the splashguard can be removed. Again, the key is supervision because you want to make sure your little one doesn't harm themselves sitting down. When toddlers are first learning to use the potty, they need a lot of supervision anyway. So take the time to help them get on and off the potty safely, an also teach the little man to point his 'hose' down! Once he learns to do this, you can remove the splashguard.

The Just for Parents Potty Training Package includes a Baby Bjorn Potty Chair, which has the molded splashguard built into it. Once your child graduates to the big toilet, the Disney Soft Potty Seat (Cars or Princess) is a great way to help them transition. Little boys who still need the help of a splashguard should be closely supervised so they stay safe and don't remove/play with the splashguard while they're sitting on the Disney Potty Seat. As they grow more independent and are able to 'tuck' by themselvews, just take the splashguard off. Two other Just for Parents picks based on effective splashguards and overall excellence are the Fisher Price Precious Planet Froggy Friend Pottyand the Primo Ducka Toilet Seat Reducer. Both have received great ratings, are cute and appealing to kids, and do a decent job of splash prevention!

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The Apple Doesn't Fall Far From the Tree!

Here's a little guy sitting on the can with his reading material... Time magazine! Granted, he is only 4-years-old and can't even read, but it's clear that he is following in the footsteps of the owner of that magazine... following them right into the bathroom and probably not to emerge for a good long while!

Just like everything else about our children's development, some of this bathroom behavior seems to be hard-wired into their very nature, while other aspects of it are picked up from exposure to different elements in their environment. The fact that this little one takes his time while his brother is in and out of the bathroom like Flash Gordan highlights those innate differences, while choice of reading material comes directly from the world around him!

It's a great opportunity if you think about it... just as this little boy's father may find the occasional J. Crew catalog with the pages dog-eared for gift ideas, a National Geographic Kids magazine strategically planted in the bathroom is wonderful practice for budding little readers! So the next time you grab some reading material for the bathroom don't take it too lightly... you may just be shaping the future of your little one more than you realize!

OMG... There's Poop on the Floor!

It takes a seasoned parent to even read this, because anyone else would most likely just roll their eyes (or gag) and move on. Unfortunately, poop on the floor actually does happen from time to time... especially during those early "experimental" stages of potty training! I'm actually curious to know how many lucky parents manage to get through this developmental milestone WITHOUT a mis-allocated poo turning up outside the boundaries of toilet or potty? It's almost a rite of passage!

The first time I came across one of these piles occurred in our playroom where I had placed the potty chair while training my older son. The shock, mortification, and guilt I felt stemmed from the fact that I had no idea this was a normal and common occurrence among young potty trainees, and I thought I must have done something terribly wrong to warrent this defecation disaster! By the time it happened with his younger brother a few years later (outside on the porch, of all places!), I was sensitized by enough hair-raising potty training experiences that I shrugged it off like an ill-fitting pamper.

Fortunately the full-blown 'poo pile' happened only once with each of my boys. I'm talking about the 'I have control over this bodily function and I choose to go on the floor not the potty' type of pile. Of course there were other poo skirmishes throughout the potty training process, but those were mostly contained to bathrooms and underwear. Pooping on the floor is a learning experience for children who are contemplating and experimenting with using the potty. Sometimes learning what to do is facilitated by learning what NOT to do! There is a great little children's book called Once Upon a Potty by Alona Frankel (she writes a version for boys and one for girls) that depicts a small child having an accident on the floor right next to the potty. It's one of the things I love about this book - it normalizes many of the uncomfortable truths about potty training, like body parts, sitting forever on the potty without results, regression, and poop on the floor!

Anyway, if it happens to you, don't panic... just have your child help put the offending pile where it belongs and let him or her know that they've ALMOST got it, next time in the potty please!!!

The Potty Seat Conundrum - Soft or Simple?

The first thing you might want to consider when choosing a potty seat insert that fits on your regular toilet is if you want a soft cushy one or not. Once you figure that out, then you can ponder all the other features that will determine which specific seat you settle on.

Soft potty seats are very popular because they are nice and comfy for little bottoms that are getting used to sitting on the potty. This is so important, because as we know, these little Mr. and Miss independents often do only what they feel like doing! Should the would-be-potty-trainer deem that it is scary or uncomfortable to engage in this new thing called "going potty", then potty training could be out the window until further notice!

An added benefit of the soft potty seats is that most of them are offered with an appealing array of popular kid-friendly characters tattooed all over them. Perfect for catching the fancy of discerning little toddlers and for tackying up mom's pretty powder room!

So what's the decision factor, you might be asking? Unfortunately, a rather notable downside to the soft potty seat is the issue of getting it clean and keeping it that way. With soft potty seats that are all one piece, that intersection where soft seat meets hard plastic base is a collection crack for whatever comes it's way. Washing it off in the tub or wiping it down with Chlorox wipes goes a long way in keeping the seat clean and sanitary, but over time you may really start to wonder about those cracks...

Some of the soft seats come apart into two pieces, so they are easier to get in there and give them a thorough cleaning. This is fine, except for the fact that there is now an even bigger crevis between the soft seat and the hard plastic base, and you really need to be conscientious about taking it apart and cleaning both pieces after every use. You really want to do that anyway with any seat, it's just an extra step to take the soft seat apart, clean it and put it back together.

The other issue here is that over time and with repeated washing (e.g. in the tub), water can get inside the soft seat, soak the cushy material inside, and sometimes cause cracking in the soft plastic material covering the seat. This has been the experience of some parents who have used the soft potty seat.

My personal experience with the soft seat has  been great. We had an Elmo one at our house that lasted through two kids potty training and we had a Dora one at the grandparents' house that also lasted really well. The one we used at home even doubled as a travel potty seat that we carried around in a diaper bag for use in public restrooms.

The non-cushy potty seats are also a good alternative. Many come in one molded plastic piece that are a cinch to clean. The downside is that some parents complain about a red ring on their child's bottom after the child sits on these harder potty seats. They also don't tend to come with popular animated characters plastered all over them (which some parents may consider a plus!).

Maybe the soft seat is not for you if you're hoping it will last through hard use of four children, but to help get a little one comfortable on the potty it can be great. These seats are well-priced and appealing to kids. The trick is to wipe it down the cushy part as opposed to submerging it in hot water all the time to avoid serious long term wear and tear. My five-year-old still takes it out occasionally at his Mamma and Papa's house even though he hasn't needed it in years - it's like another little luxury that he enjoys there! [See top 10 potty seats rated by Just for Parents Expert Panel]

What do you think about the soft seats, yay or nay? We would love to hear about your experience with them!

Is a Potty Training Doll Necessary?

Some potty training approaches specifically instruct you to use a potty training doll. The purpose is for your child to 'teach' the doll how to go on the potty. If you are using such an approach, then you will need a doll. Many of the 'quick train' approaches, where you train your child in a very short period of time (e.g. a day), use a doll as part of the training process. If your child is ready to potty train, these approaches can be very effective. However, it is critical to follow the directions carefully, step by step.

Perhaps you'll take a more casual approach to potty training your child. Even if the training method you plan to use does not requre a doll that goes potty, it certainly can't hurt the potty training process to have one. The doll is a motivating way to introduce your child to the concept of going on the potty, and also a convenient way for your child to learn about the body parts involved in going potty! 

These dolls that drink and go pee can be very pricey though, and a good alternative is for your child to learn about going potty by watching someone else (e.g. sibling or parent) use the toilet. Another less expensive option is to role play using the potty with a stuffed animal or doll that your child already has (and loves!). Granted, your average Elmo doll doesn't actually produce anything on the potty, but it's still a fun way for your child to become familiar with the whole idea!

Of course, there is something very appealing about having a doll that drinks real water and then goes pee! Plenty of children have been successfully potty trained without one, but they are kind of fun... Have you used one of these potty training dolls to train your child? If so, how did it work and would you recommend it to other parents?

Why Get Both a Potty Chair AND a Potty Seat?

On our short list of potty training essentials, the Potty Train Gang recommends starting off with a potty chair AND a potty seat for your little one. Why both? When you're first getting started with potty training, it's really helpful to have one of each on hand so you can offer your child both and see what they end up liking the best. Most children begin with the potty chair and then transition to the potty seat placed on the regular toilet. [See 10 top potty chairs and potty seats]

The potty chair is a safe and convenient way to introduce your little one to the idea of using the potty. Placed right on the floor, there is no precarious climb onto the large toilet using a step stool. This not only keeps them safe, but also eliminates the possibility that your child is turned off to training because he or she feels scared or unsafe. 

The potty chair has the added benefit of mobility - you can bring it right to that special corner where your child likes to hang out and do their business! The chair can also be placed strategically so you child can sit on it while watching a T.V. show. Sometimes the longer a child sits comfortably on the potty the greater the chances are that they'll produce something in it. Let's face it, television can be an effective way to capture little attention spans for more than 10 seconds in a row! Watching a show that your child enjoys while he or she is sitting on their potty also creates a positive association with the potty. The more your child likes the potty, the more likely and the more often they will sit on it and be motivated to use it!

Once your child moves on to using a potty seat placed on the big toilet, you'll most likely be jumping for joy because there's no more messy clean up that goes along with a potty chair! Even if your child goes to the potty seat very quickly, you may still find the potty chair useful as a car or travel potty when you're out and about. Toileting and travel... that's a whole other can of worms!!! [Do I need a travel potty?]

What did your children like best when they started potty training - the chair or the seat? Do you have any advice for other parents trying to decide what to get for their little potty trainees?